Well, when a guide meets up with someone who is lost, ordinarily his reaction is to direct him on the right path, not mock or malign him, then turn on his heel and walk away. [4] As for you, lead someone to the truth and you will find that he can follow. But as long as you don’t point it out to him, don’t make fun of him; be aware of what you need to work on instead.
Discourses 2.12.3
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue in this passage is the importance of guidance and self-reflection in living a virtuous life. As Epictetus notes, "lead someone to the truth and you will find that he can follow" (Discourses 2.12.4). This reveals that living well involves not only understanding the truth but also being willing to guide others towards it, rather than mocking or maligning them.
This passage also highlights the importance of self-awareness and humility. Epictetus advises us to "be aware of what you need to work on instead" (Discourses 2.12.4), rather than focusing on the shortcomings of others. This suggests that living well requires a deep understanding of our own flaws and weaknesses, and a willingness to work on improving ourselves.
To apply this insight today, one might reflect on their interactions with others. When encountering someone who is "lost" or struggling, do you try to guide them towards the truth, or do you mock or criticize them? Take a moment to consider how you can offer helpful guidance and support, rather than judgment or ridicule.
As you go about your day, also take time to reflect on your own areas for improvement. What are the things that you need to work on, and how can you take concrete steps towards self-improvement? By focusing on your own growth and development, and by offering guidance and support to others, you can cultivate a more virtuous and compassionate approach to living.
What is one area of your life where you could offer more guidance and support to others, rather than criticism or judgment?