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Today’s reflection
‘What should I do then?’
What do you do when you leave a ship? Do you walk off with the rudder and oars? No; you leave with your own gear, your oil-flask and wallet. So just remember what belongs to you, and you won’t lay claim to what doesn’t.
Discourses 1.24.11
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue here is the distinction between what is within our control and what is not. In [Discourses 1.24.11], Epictetus uses the analogy of leaving a ship to illustrate this point.
This passage reveals that living well involves recognizing what truly belongs to us and letting go of what doesn't. As Epictetus says, when leaving a ship, we don't take the rudder and oars, which are not ours to keep. Similarly, in life, we should focus on our own character, actions, and thoughts, rather than trying to control external events or possessions.
To apply this insight today, one might reflect on their own life and identify areas where they are trying to control or cling to things that are not truly theirs. This could be a relationship, a material possession, or an outcome. By recognizing what is within their power to control and what is not, they can begin to let go of unnecessary attachments and focus on cultivating their own character and virtues.
As we go about our day, we can ask ourselves: "What is my own 'gear' that I should be focusing on?" This might include our values, our relationships with others, or our own personal growth. By prioritizing what is truly ours and letting go of the rest, we can live more freely and authentically. What is one thing you can let go of today that is not truly yours to keep?