I fear we don’t appreciate its grandeur, nor do we have a fair idea of Diogenes’ character. We are influenced by the sad spectacle of today’s Cynics, these dogs who beg at table and hang about the gate who have nothing in common with the Cynics of old except maybe for farting in public, not much else. [81] Because, if we did, we would not be surprised or disappointed if a Cynic does not marry or procreate. My friend, he fathers everyone: every man is his son, every woman his daughter. That is how he regards everyone, and how much he cares for them. [82] Don’t think he hectors strangers in a spirit of impudence; he is acting like a father, or a brother – like the vicar of God, the father of everyone.
Discourses 3.22.80
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue in this passage is the concept of living in accordance with nature and virtue. Epictetus reflects on the character of Diogenes, a Cynic philosopher, to illustrate how one can live a life of wisdom and compassion.
As Epictetus notes, Diogenes "fathers everyone: every man is his son, every woman his daughter" (Discourses 3.22.81). This reveals that living well involves adopting a paternal attitude towards all people, caring for them as if they were one's own family. This mindset allows one to act with kindness, empathy, and wisdom, rather than being driven by personal interests or biases.
To apply this insight today, one might consider how they interact with strangers or acquaintances. Instead of viewing them as mere outsiders, one could strive to regard them with the same care and concern as they would their own family members. This could involve offering words of encouragement, listening actively, or providing help when needed. By adopting this paternal attitude, one can cultivate a sense of community and connection with others, which is essential for living a virtuous and fulfilling life.
As you reflect on this passage, consider: How would your interactions with others change if you regarded every person as a son or daughter?