Stoic Sage

The underlying Stoic issue here is the distinction between genuine regard and self-interest. As Epictetus notes, "No, it's me looking after myself" (Discourses 1.19.10). This passage reveals that people's actions, including those that appear to be favors or signs of respect, are often motivated by self-interest rather than genuine concern for others. This insight can help us live well by fostering a sense of detachment and discernment in our relationships. We should not assume that others' actions are necessarily driven by a desire to benefit us or demonstrate their regard for us. Instead, we should recognize that people often act in their own self-interest, just as Epictetus concedes that he gives others the same attention he gives his dishes. To apply this insight today, consider the following guidance: when interacting with others, focus on your own character and actions, rather than trying to interpret or manipulate their motivations. As Epictetus might suggest, prioritize your own self-interest in the sense of taking care of your own virtue and integrity, rather than seeking validation or favors from others. A practical step you can take today is to reflect on your own motivations and actions. Ask yourself: am I acting out of genuine concern for others, or am I driven by self-interest? By cultivating this awareness, you can begin to develop a greater sense of authenticity and integrity in your relationships, and focus on living in accordance with your own values and principles. What is one situation today where you can apply this insight, and prioritize your own character and actions over seeking validation or favors from others?