Be careful how you take the news – I won’t say that your child died, because you couldn’t possibly tolerate that -but that your cruet of oil fell over. Or that someone drank up all your wine. [142] Anyone finding you in despair might well say, simply, ‘Philosopher, you sang a different tune in school. Don’t try to deceive us, or pretend that you are a human being when you’re no more than a worm.’ [143] I’d like to come upon one of them having sex, just to see how much they exert themselves and what kind of sounds they make; whether they remember who they are or recall any of the sentiments which they hear and preach and read.
Discourses 4.1.141
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue here is the consistency between one's words and actions, particularly in times of adversity. Epictetus highlights the discrepancy between how we present ourselves and how we react to challenging situations.
As Epictetus notes, "Be careful how you take the news" (Discourses 4.1.141), emphasizing the importance of managing our reactions to unexpected events. This passage reveals that living well involves cultivating inner strength and resilience, so we can respond to life's challenges with equanimity, rather than despair.
To apply this insight today, consider how you would react if you were to experience a minor setback, such as spilling coffee or missing a bus. Would you become flustered, or could you maintain your composure? By practicing mindfulness and self-awareness in these small moments, you can develop the inner strength needed to navigate more significant challenges with greater ease.
As you go about your day, ask yourself: What are the sentiments I preach, and do my actions align with them? How can I embody the principles I value, even in the face of adversity?