‘What do you mean, “praise me” ’?
‘Shout “bravo!” and “marvellous!”’
Fine, I’ll shout it. But if praise is one of those things that philosophers categorize as ‘good’, then how can I praise you? Teach me that it is good to be eloquent, and I will praise you.
Discourses 3.23.24
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue in this passage is the nature of true praise and what is genuinely good. Epictetus highlights the distinction between empty flattery and meaningful acknowledgment. As he says, "if praise is one of those things that philosophers categorize as ‘good’, then how can I praise you?" This reveals that true praise should be based on virtue, not mere eloquence or external appearance.
This insight can be applied to daily life by being mindful of what we truly value and praise. Instead of seeking empty validation or trying to impress others, we should focus on cultivating inner strength, wisdom, and character. As Epictetus implies, true praise is earned by living a life of virtue, not by seeking external recognition.
To live well, someone might apply this insight today by reflecting on their own values and what they praise in others. They could ask themselves, "What do I truly admire and respect in others?" and "Am I seeking genuine virtue or just external validation?" By focusing on what is truly good and admirable, they can cultivate a sense of inner worth and direction, rather than relying on the opinions of others.
As a practical guidance, one could take a moment to evaluate their interactions with others, and consider whether their praise or recognition is based on genuine virtue or just superficial qualities. By doing so, they can align their values and actions with what is truly good, and live a more authentic and meaningful life. What is one thing you can do today to focus on cultivating inner virtue, rather than seeking external praise?