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Today’s reflection
Personally, I imagine that your own mother and father, even had they predicted that you were going to say such things, would not have exposed you.
Discourses 1.23.10
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue here is the importance of self-reflection and personal responsibility. The passage [Discourses 1.23.10] suggests that even those closest to us, like our parents, may not have anticipated or condoned our current actions or words. This reveals that our choices and behaviors are ultimately our own, and we must take responsibility for them.
Epictetus' words imply that we should not shift the blame or responsibility for our actions to others, including our family or upbringing. Instead, we must acknowledge and own our decisions, recognizing that they are a reflection of our character and values. As Epictetus might say, we must focus on what is within our control, which includes our thoughts, words, and actions.
To apply this insight today, consider reflecting on your own actions and decisions. Ask yourself: "Am I taking ownership of my choices, or am I blaming external circumstances or others?" By acknowledging and accepting responsibility for your actions, you can begin to live more authentically and in alignment with your values. This, in turn, can lead to greater self-awareness, personal growth, and a stronger sense of character.
As you go about your day, remember that your choices and actions have consequences, and it is up to you to own them. By doing so, you can cultivate a sense of agency and responsibility, which is essential for living a virtuous and fulfilling life. What is one decision or action you can take today that you can own and be proud of?