All of which explains why Zeno was not nervous about his meeting with Antigonus. What Zeno valued Antigonus had no power over, and as a philosopher he cared nothing for the things that the king did command. [15] It was Antigonus who was anxious before their meeting. Naturally – he wanted to make a good impression, which was beyond his control. Zeno, for his part, had no wish to please the king; no expert needs validation from an amateur. [16] So what do I need your approval for? You don’t know the measure of a man, you haven’t studied to learn what a good or a bad person is, and how each one gets that way. No wonder you’re not a good person yourself.
Discourses 2.13.14
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue here is the pursuit of external validation and the desire for control over things that are not within our power. As Epictetus notes in Discourses 2.13.14-16, Zeno's calmness in meeting Antigonus stems from his focus on what he values, which is beyond the king's control.
This passage reveals that living well involves recognizing what is within our control and what is not. Zeno's indifference to the king's opinion is rooted in his understanding of what truly matters, and his confidence in his own character. As Epictetus says, "No expert needs validation from an amateur." This highlights the importance of self-sufficiency and not seeking approval from others to validate our worth.
To apply this insight today, one might reflect on their own desires for external validation. Are there situations where you seek approval or recognition from others to feel good about yourself? Consider letting go of the need for validation and focusing on what you can control, such as your own actions and character. As Epictetus asks, "So what do I need your approval for?" This question can serve as a reminder to look inward for self-worth, rather than outward.
What is one area of your life where you can practice indifference to external opinion today?