‘Hold it, though – doesn’t nature intend women to be shared? I grant it – but in the way a roast is shared among dinner guests. Very well, after each guest has received his share, if you feel like it, why not grab your neighbour’s portion too? Steal it when he’s not looking, or just stretch out your hand and grab all you can manage to put away. If you can’t actually snatch the meat, at least wipe your hands on it, and lick the grease off your fingers. What fine company you will make -just like Socrates’ fellow diners in the Symposium.’
Discourses 2.4.8
Today’s meditation
The underlying Stoic issue in this passage is the concept of living in accordance with nature and respecting the boundaries of others. Epictetus uses a vivid analogy of sharing a roast at dinner to illustrate the importance of self-control and moderation.
As Epictetus says, "in the way a roast is shared among dinner guests" [Discourses 2.4.8], implying that there is a proper way to share and enjoy things, without overstepping or taking more than one's fair share. This reveals that living well involves being mindful of one's desires and actions, and not allowing them to dictate behavior that might be harmful or disrespectful to others.
To apply this insight today, one might reflect on areas where they may be overindulging or taking more than their share, whether it be in relationships, resources, or personal desires. Ask yourself: "Am I respecting the boundaries of others and living in harmony with nature?" By cultivating self-awareness and self-control, one can learn to appreciate and enjoy the things in life without overstepping or causing harm to others.
As you go about your day, consider how you can apply this principle of moderation and respect for others, and see how it can bring greater harmony and balance to your life. What is one area where you can practice self-control and respect for others' boundaries today?